Author Archives: karen muleba

I am not drunk, why do you think that?


Everything is blurry and out of focus.  You blink and try to concentrate on your friend’s face to process what she is saying but your brain cannot make out the words which are coming out of her mouth. You’re really trying to focus but the room is spinning as if to distract you.  Then, you see something pretty.  It’s a ...

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Genius! Me? Impossible!


Being a student myself, I know that the pressure of achieving optimum grades can become so overwhelming, that your only wish is to have a brain transplant with geniuses, such as the likes of Da Vinci or Einstein. As inconceivable as it may seem, apart from their background and nurture, there wasn’t anything particularly unique that made these figures reach ...

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The difference between an asset and a liability


Recently, I went to a conference which took place at the Hilton Hotel for a seminar for women who want to be wealthy, and learnt a valuable lesson. These two words – Asset and Liability – are twin brothers but are complete opposites. From looking up these two words in the dictionary I found out what they mean and it ...

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Give it a go! What’s the worst that could happen?


It’s much better to fail than it is to have never tried. How will you know the answer unless you asked? How do you know you’re going to be wrong unless you’ve told that you weren’t right? You don’t! If you don’t ask, you’ll never learn and, if you never fall, you’ll never learn how to get back up and ...

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Desperate times call for desperate measures!


Have you ever been in a situation where you knew that if something was done, you would LOSE OUT or FAIL?  You can’t think of one? Here’s an example!  You’ve been ignoring some coursework, assignment or exam – revision that was handed out weeks or months ago, and it’s the last day or hours before the deadline.  In your head, ...

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You are what you think you are


It’s not who you are that holds you back, but who you think you are. If you think you’re the best, you’ll behave, dress, walk and talk as the best.  Sometimes, we’ve already sold ourselves as someone limp, weak and untrustworthy, simply due to our presentation and lack of confidence. I’ve lost out many times because of shyness, nervousness and ...

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“I am working on it” disease 


Have you ever spoken to someone who “knows it all” but never backs up their knowledge with results? That friend who always answers questions and, sometimes, explains to others but ends up getting the lowest grade? You then think to yourself, ‘awkward!’  Now, let’s look at ourselves. Sometimes we say to ourselves, ‘I need to stop this, I need to ...

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He’s just not that in to you | “Side Chick Syndrome”


In the world we live in today, everything is backwards! What is right is looked at as ‘wrong’ and what is wrong is looked at as right.  This is seen the most in relationships, where a new epidemic has gripped our society – the “side chick”. First, let’s define the word. A side Chick is the other woman also known ...

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The blame game


There’s one thing which I’ve always been curious about – when a parent says, “Don’t hang around with that person; they’re a bad influence”.  I’m one hundred percent sure that the parent of that “bad influence” is saying the same thing about the other child. So what’s happening here?  Are they both bad influences? Did they make each other bad ...

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My ride or die


She said she was my ride or die and that she would have my back, but when things got tough I saw exactly that. The back of her head and the way she turned back on her words someone I once trusted, acting completely absurd. Her actions scarred me, and enabled me to trust less whenever I’m around females, I ...

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