He’s up for it, so am I, why not?

hesupforit– I am 16 years old and I don’t see the problem in having sex if the guy’s up for it and I am up for it. Why wait for being in a relationship or to be married? –

It is completely up to you, if you want to have sex. The main concern is your safety – not just physically but emotionally, mentally and spiritually. There are many different angles to look at this.

To answer the first part of your question, ‘Why wait for being in a relationship?’

Well, wouldn’t you want to know that you are not a girl amongst a list of many who have ‘had’ this guy? Come on girl – the more you use a towel the more you have to wash it and then it starts to fade.

Going to bed with a guy who whose last name you don’t even know, has numerous consequences.  Here are a few!

–       What if the condom splits and you get pregnant?

–       Or, what if you get a STD or STI from him?

–       How can you contact him to let him know he has a disease? (You can find out more on STDs and STIs in next week’s post)

Now for the second part of your question, ‘Wait to be married’

You’re not going to marry someone you don’t know, are you? That person will be committing themselves to you for the rest of your lives and, should anything happen, you can work as a twosome to conquer things like contraception, unexpected pregnancies and even STDs/STIs.

Think about the consequences and what could happen if you try to rush things.  Are you financially and emotionally able to bring up a child at the age of 16? GCSEs are around the corner, so think about that.

If this guy is really up for being with you, he will wait until he puts a ring on your finger, otherwise, you are just a piece of meat to him.

Would you rather be respected and loved or disrespected and used?

Think about it. The destination of your life is in your hands.

Would you like to talk to someone about relationships?  Email: girls@victoryyouthgroup.co.uk